WHAT HAPPENS WHEN AN ALLEGATION IS
Be aware that as a
foster parent, you are a allegations target!
You are essentially
riding the allegator(alligator)
When an allegation is filed against you, or
someone in your family, it can be the most
devastating experience your family members have ever had.
In most states, if the allegation is involving physical or
sexual abuse, your foster children are immediately removed from your
home. Understand, that your own children can be removed also at
this time. You
watch helplessly as your children
are being ripped from your loving
arms and away from
their home. The trauma of this
experience is a frightening and life altering for the
children as well as yourself.
At that time, you are given no explanation for this
of your normal family
life. You are offered few or no answers to your questions.
Your immediate reaction is panic. You
pick up the phone and dial your
social worker, who just
yesterday was your friend.
You must understand that your social worker cannot talk to
you about the
allegation that has been filed. I personally have
seen social workers cry
because they are helpless to assist the people they care
about, they are required to
sever all ties with you immediately upon an
So, here you are, your children gone, you don’t know where
they have been taken, and no one will tell
you anything. No one will talk
to you. You are alone.
You have never felt so isolated. You never
kind of desperation before in your
When the initial shock wears off you begin thinking
You begin seeking counsel, with
friends, other foster parents,
family, anyone who will
listen to you. At this point you don't know
to either wait it out hoping that
whatever the allegation is will be found unsubstantiated and
dropped, to obtain an
attorney to fight it, or try to fight it yourself.
You are told that you should obtain the services of an
attorney, not by your
accusers, but by your fellow foster parents, who
have been through this themselves.
If you have saved a
little emergency money set aside for this such an occasion.
Think about the next step ! What would that be
! How does one go about locating an attorney
that specializes in legal
with Foster Parenting. Do you pick up the
yellow pages ? Ok, go
get your telephone yellow pages. Did you
look at it ? Under what heading do you seek
an attorney ? Family
the workable choice, but it should be
Unfortunately in most yellow pages you won’t
find this specialized field of law even
So which attorney do you call ? Your only logical
choice is to
use the attorney a friend or maybe a
fellow foster parent recommends.
your family's future to an attorney you really know nothing about could
have dire consequences. You haven't a clue as to this attorney's reputation or
Keep in mind, that, if you do nothing, this allegation
on your fostering record for up to five
years. If you have
child abuse on your record you
will not be able to obtain employment as a
assistant, police officer, child care worker, or
any involvment with or being around children. Even if you are found innocent of
all wrong doing. It will be there for
five years unless you have an
remove it from your record.
Now we come back to the financial side of this
scenario. Attorneys across the country
charge an average of $250-$450 per hour
time. They always want a portion of this cash up
front to be
retained as your attorney of record. Do you have $5,000
or even $1,000 that can be
re-routed or re-budgeted to this
Most of us have the same answer, NO! Especially foster
parents, who traditionally
use all of their financial resources, and then
some, to care for and
love other peoples children as their own.
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Lovingly written, not to frighten, but to warn……by Marilyn
National Administrator for Foster Parents Legal Solutions
today ! 1-877-FPA-CHILD